Among the biggest problems people have in achieving their Goals is that they get frustrated, distracted or diverted from the end result. Given the amount of cultural noise the majority of us experience these days, it can be extremely tough to focus on what has to be done. I find myself torn in multiple directions, less because I’m trying to do than having valid responsibilities that pop up.
So, how do we handle these situations? For lots of us we try to power through what’s going on. We try to get it all done at the exact same time it would take to do a quarter of what’s landed on our plates. We try to go it alone. We work long hours and become exhausted, not able to get anything done, much less all of it.
In these situations the common factor is often that we’re working alone. We’re working on our Goals alone. We are working on our responsibilities alone. We are working on the solutions independently. That’s among the worst things we can do, even if we don’t have any excess stuff competing for our attention.
Here’s three reasons why working alone can kill your Success.
You don’t have any support system. Working on your own Goals without outside support or help keeps means you’re subject to all the ups and downs and emotional insecurities with someone to keep you grounded. Some people can manage this type of thing alone, but it is too easy to get sucked down a path of negative thoughts and paralyzing fear.
You have no one to hold you liable. Success is often composed of small, consistent daily activities that you continue doing, day after day and week after week. When something happens to dissuade you, it’s easy to skip those daily actions today. It’s easy to take a couple of days off to break free from the stress. What kills it isn’t getting back in the saddle after that break. It is too easy to allow the break become the standard, not the exception. For those who have somebody that holds you accountable to your daily actions, it’s harder to disappoint them than take it in yourself.
You don’t have any one to bounce ideas off of. You may think that’s not important. After all, you have got your targets and your Roadmap, You’re motivated and ready. Too often though our plans and ideas have holes because we simply can’t see them. We created them, but we generally only see the positives that go together or result from such plans and ideas. Somebody who’s a sounding board for you will frequently see what you can’t. They’re not emotionally invested and they frequently bring a different life experience when looking at your plans. That sort of experience is invaluable when you’re getting started. It helps you to avoid problems that would otherwise delay or entirely derail your plans and future Success.
Do you see what these have in common with most people’s regular lives? Unless you’re a hermit or a desert monk, you are normally surrounded by those who support you, hold you accountable and will help you with your own ideas. If you’re in a union, then it is most likely your partner. If you work in a regular job, it’s your boss and co-workers. If you’re in school, it’s your teachers, professors and fellow students. It’s everywhere we are and everywhere we go.
For many it is probably fear. We’re afraid our ideas will be stolen. We are afraid others will attempt to hold us back. We are afraid we will be laughed at or ridiculed for what we are trying to do. This can bleed over to our everyday lives too, but for the most part, we do not work on our marriage, family or job by ourselves. We recognize that we are part of a larger whole and need help from others.